Dear Birth Family Letter

Dear Birth Family,

Thank you for opening your heart to adoption and for taking a few minutes to get to know us. We are an active, loving, tight-knit crew eager to grow our family through adoption.

When we married 12 years ago, we knew we deeply loved each other and were excited to see what future held. We’ve had joyous and heartbreaking seasons, both of which have knit us together as a couple and made our marriage stronger. After struggling with infertility and pregnancy losses, three years ago we became parents to our son Mason, and have desired siblings for him since his birth. Family and friends have grown their families through adoption, and our hearts are eager to do the same. We know that adoption is the right choice for growing our family and we’re excited to see where this journey takes us.

Although we don’t know you, we greatly admire the selfless love and compassion you have for your baby. We know you want the very best for him or her. Please know that we want the same thing and are fully committed to giving your child our unconditional love and support.

We’re incredibly grateful you are considering us as parents for your baby. Whether your due date is days or months away, we are ready for another family member (or two!) and are eager to talk to you. Please call or text us at 202-350-0509 to talk about whether we might be the right fit for you.

We look forward to hearing from you!

Brad and Rebecca

MASON2_041About Us

We met in graduate school and dated for nearly three years before getting engaged. We recently celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary! As a couple, we’re pretty active. We have completed two marathons and multiple other races. During our early years of marriage, we played flag football and softball on an alumni team together. (That was really more Brad’s hobby though, as he’s more of an athlete and the sports lover.) One year, we did a “married book club” with just the two of us. We read the unabridged version of The Count of Monte Cristo together and discussed it afterward. (This was more for Rebecca since she’s the bigger reader, although we both enjoy it.) We value experiences together more than material goods, so we’ve implemented a “no gifts” rule for birthdays and anniversaries. Instead of exchanging material gifts, we dine at a fancy area restaurant that we would never otherwise frequent. We enjoy going to neighborhood coffee shops and exploring our amazing city, as well as traveling.

My Husband, Brad (written by Rebecca)100_0637

Born and raised in the South, Brad is smart, funny, witty, and the most gracious person I have ever met. He is loving and kind, and works hard to care and provide for our family. I appreciate his responsible and dependable nature, but also how he can cut loose, be playful, and have fun! He lightens my load and lifts my spirits every day. I cannot imagine my life without him. He faithfully loves and cares for Mason and me unconditionally.

Brad is an only child and didn’t spend much time around small children until our son was born, but as far as parenting goes, he is a natural. He eagerly participates in even the most mundane (and sometimes messy!) tasks in caring for our son because he loves him and he just loves being a dad. Mason delights in spending time with Daddy. Brad can get Mason laughing like no one else can.

Brad loves watching and playing sports, running, and reading. In his professional life, Brad is a senior policy advisor for the government and his office is near our home, making for a short commute. His job is flexible and family friendly. It provides great benefits, a stable income for our family, and requires little, if any, overnight travel, meaning he almost never misses his goodnight kiss from Mason.

100_0764My Wife, Rebecca (written by Brad)

Born and raised on a farm in the Midwest, Rebecca is smart and funny, and makes a great home for Mason and me. Mason clearly gets his determination from Rebecca, who has never met a challenge she couldn’t overcome. She loves and cares for our family self-sacrificially, and still finds time to encourage and support her friends. She keeps me on track when things need to get done, but is also constantly on the lookout for the next fun adventure. She is a wonderful and loving partner for me, and I thank God every day He brought her into my life.

As the oldest of three, Rebecca spent plenty of time caring for her younger siblings growing up, so it was no surprise when Rebecca proved to be a natural mom. As much as I love Mason’s affection directed at me, seeing the way he loves and adores his mommy is even more special.

Rebecca loves reading, writing, cooking, gardening, and running, and is still trying to figure out how to balance all of these hobbies with the busyness of motherhood. Rebecca is currently a stay-at-home-mom, but prior to that, she earned her Ph.D. and worked in higher education for 12 years, administering and teaching in an undergraduate honors research program at a local university. I love that Rebecca is joyfully willing to stay home in order to give our children the time and attention they need.

 

Our Son, MasonMASON2_049 8x10

Our son, Mason, is three years old and very outgoing and talkative for his age. He is high energy and runs everywhere! He is spirited and strong-willed, yet affectionate and sweet, regularly giving kisses, snuggles, and hugs. His thumb and blankie are near and dear to his heart. Like his parents, he loves books and reading. He enjoys trains and planes, and would spend all day every day outside if we’d let him. He is drawn to babies, and talks constantly about his friends’ baby brothers and sisters. He is loving, responsible, and likes to help Mommy and Daddy around the house—we know he’s going to make a wonderful big brother.

Both sets of grandparents live several states away, but they dote on Mason and would love to welcome another grandchild. We manage to visit with both several times a year.

front of houseOur Home and Community

Rebecca calls herself the stay-at-home-mom who is rarely home. A number of families from our church live in our neighborhood, and we hang out with them regularly. As a family we love getting out to enjoy all that our city has to offer and make a point of devoting Saturday mornings to fun family outings. We live in a three-bedroom row house in a beautiful, quaint, diverse neighborhood with a plentitude of lovely parks, playgrounds, and a great community swimming pool. We walk much more than we drive. We regularly enjoy the museums, zoo, and seasonal festivals and events. We also can’t pass up a cute, cozy coffee shop on Saturday mornings or long weekends. We’ve taken a beach vacation each summer of Mason’s life and hope to continue that tradition.

Our Future

We expect to stay in our current location for the foreseeable future. We hope to raise our family in our current neighborhood and expose them to all of the wonderful things a major city has to offer. Rebecca plans to stay home with our children to provide them a loving and supportive upbringing, and then return to the working world in some capacity once our children are in school. Brad has been blessed with a stable job that provides well for our family.

Our Christian faith is very important to us. We strive to bring our children up to know the Lord and want to foster a desire in them to love and serve others sacrificially. We hope to pass on to our children the values of working hard, having integrity, and persevering through life’s ups and downs. As parents, we value love, honesty, openness, and consistency. We believe in doing whatever it takes to establish, build, and maintain close and loving relationships with each other and with our children; we want our children to feel comfortable talking to us about anything, at any stage of life. Although we don’t do this perfectly, we aim to model God’s grace, and how to show that grace to others.

We also place a high value on education and believe in tailoring our children’s education to their needs. Rebecca was the first in her family to earn a bachelor’s degree and we both hold graduate degrees. Higher education is very important to us and we want to help our children finance their college education if they desire to pursue it.

Thank you again for taking the time to get to know our family and for considering us as adoptive parents. We have endless respect for you and the decision you are making. We know you deeply love your child and we promise to always speak of you with love, honor, and respect, and to make sure your child knows the incredible, loving sacrifice you made for him or her.

We look forward to hearing from you! Please call or text us at 202-350-0509.

Brad and Rebecca

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